Friday, May 22, 2015

The Divorce Professionals Spring Expo

Bergen County Lawyers Specializing in Divorce Law with Offices in Hackensack, Bergen County, and meeting locations throughout Northern and Central New Jersey.

cbs CLICK TO VIEW CBS NEWS VIDEO on The Divorce Professionals Spring Expo. Attorneys from Aretsky Law Group, P.C. spoke at this event on May 19th.

Monday, September 22, 2014

We've Moved !

Aretsky & Aretsky, Attorneys at Law is now Aretsky Law Group, P.C.  We have moved our offices to Court Plaza East, 19 Main Street, Hackensack.  We are now located across the street from the Bergen County Justice Center and free covered parking is available for visitors. Avoid taking the shuttle to the Courthouse while construction is ongoing. Access to the covered parking lot is off of Sussex Street.

Thursday, September 11, 2014

NJ's Alimony Law Gets an Update

New Jersey's alimony law - derided by many as archaic - is getting an update.

Governor Chris Christie's office announced tonight that he signed a bill that would make significant changes to alimony, though critics have said it doesn't go far enough.

The law Christie just signed applies mainly to future divorces, though it does allow a "rebuttable presumption" that alimony payments will end once the ex-spouse paying them reaches the "full retirement age" of 67.

Among its other major changes:
  • For marriages that lasted fewer than 20 years, the length of alimony payments cannot exceed the length of the marriage unless a judge decides there are "exceptional circumstances"
  •  Judges would be able to end payments if the recipient lives with a partner, even if they don't get married.
  • Judges would be able to lower payments if the payer has been out of work for 90 days.
  • The term "permanent alimony" would be replaced with "open durational alimony."

Christie did not comment on signing the bill.  Advocates of overhauling the alimony system had been split on whether to support the bill.

Aretsky and Aretsky, Attorneys at Law in Bergen County, NJ, can help you learn about alimony and divorce. 

Call today and we can discuss your situation.  Eric Aretsky is available 24/7 to take your call.  Call 201-580-3411.  

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Divorce Workshop to Feature 10 Hackensack Professionals in Roundtable Setting - Free

June 11, 6:00 PM at Maggiano's Little Italy in Hackensack

Meet one-on-one with psychologists, attorneys, financial managers, realtors, and more who all specialize in issues related to divorce. Get all your questions answered in one place. Clear up myths and misunderstandings about separation and divorce.


To help you with all of your questions and clear up many myths about divorce, a panel of experts has been assembled and will be available to answer your specific questions in a round table format. The event is being billed as "Divorce Workshop 2014 - Words of Widsom" and will be held Wednesday, June 11, 2014, from 6:00 PM to 8:00 PM EDT at Maggiano's Little Italy, 390 Hackensack Ave, Hackensack NJ 07601. The event is free. 

Register online or CALL 201-972-6475 to place your name on the RSVP list

Speakers that evening will include attorneys from Aretsky and Aretsky. They will be on hand to answer all your questions about the legal side of divorce. Dolores Aretsky and Eric Aretsky have each been in practice for over 20 years and are court-approved family law mediators. Eric has experience litigating divorce, alimony, child support, child custody and parenting time, distribution of assets, domestic violence, and all related post-judgment matters.  Aretsky and Aretsky is committed to obtaining the most expeditious resolution possible while aggressively protecting their client's best interests.

As a trained and experienced divorce mediator, Dolores Aretsky helps divorcing couples reach fair resolutions of challenging divorce issues and avoid the stressful litigation process.  Discover the advantages of divorce mediation where YOU control the outcome. Receive step-by-step instructions regarding the mediation process.

Real estate issues are often near the top of the list of concerns for couples facing divorce. Do we sell? Does one spouse buy the other out? What is in the best interest of everyone?

You can sign up at

For those attending who want to get some idea of the issues surrounding the sale of jointly owned homes or other real estate, Donna Nicolich of Abbott & Caserta Realtors will be on hand to answer all questions.  Donna has 20 years of real estate experience in and around Bergen County.

Sometimes there will be other issues around the real estate, including even purchases of new domiciles. To help with all the lending and mortgage issues, Ronald Laurent of NJ Lenders Corp says: "Disagreements over the responsibility of financial obligations during divorce can lead to delinquencies and defaults, which can damage an otherwise pristine credit history and make the rental or purchase of a new home problematic." Ronald is with NJ Lenders Corp/Mortgage Bankers Senior Loan Officer, NMLS# 1006234.

Other assets also need to be considered. How do you solve the financial puzzle? What should you expect during and after divorce? Henry Rinder, CPA, CFF Smolin Lupin, is a seasoned Forensic Accountant with over 30 years of experience. He has been accepted as a divorce expert by the New Jersey courts. In divorce matters, he values businesses, establishes "standard of living", assists with financial settlements, and searches for hidden assets and fraud.

You also need to consider the future. How can you recast your financial future post divorce? Douglas P. Posluszny of UBS Financial Services Inc. will provide you with an overview of the 5 steps to financial empowerment

Doug and his team have 50+ years of wealth management experience.  They work with high net worth individuals who are undergoing life events such as divorce. They emphasize asset allocation, diversification, & total portfolio management with a focus on risk management.

Register online or CALL 201-972-6475 to place your name on the RSVP list

There is no getting around the emotional impact of divorce on every member of the immediate, and even extended, family. These seem to primarily revolve around the kids.

When it comes to the legal aspects of custody and parenting time, the panel will include the expertise of Mathias R. Hagovsky, Ph.D. of Gerson Hagovsky Antonelli and Altman, LLC.

Dr. Hagovsky is available to talk with you about concerns you may have about custody and parenting time: how is it determined, what are the important factors, is an evaluation the only option?  Can I move out of New Jersey? Can I keep my spouse from moving far away with the children?  What other ways can a psychologist help with the divorce process?

Dr. Hagovsky is a forensic psychologist specializing in performing custody and parenting time evaluations including petitions by one party to move from New Jersey to another State or Country. He is experienced as a Parent Coordinator and mediator of custody and parenting time issues.

How do evaluators address custody and parenting time once separate households are established? What are the procedures used in a best interests evaluation? How can the effects of divorce be minimized--or heightened--for the children? What services can psychologists provide if there are still child-centered impasses after the divorce?  These are just some of the issues that Lisa K. Tomasini, Ph.D. of Gerson Hagovsky Antonelli & Altman, LLC will address.

You can sign up at

Sometimes there are circumstances in a divorce that require the services of a private investigator. Dan Coleman is owner of Creative Solutions. He is a 26-year veteran detective who retired from the Morris County Prosecutor's office, where he worked in several specialized units, including an assignment at the FBI and six years in the Sex Crimes/Child Abuse/Megan's Law Unit.

Dan notes, "Unlike the stereotypical image of a PI lurking in the shadows with a camera, following errant husbands and wives, modern private investigators are experienced and trained professional." Dan will answer questions about obtaining essential, compelling, court-ready evidence in matters such as child custody, cohabitation, and financial forensics.

Dr. Lisa Tomasini is a licensed psychologist who provides forensic services to divorcing families. She offers best interests and move-away evaluations to help determine family-specific parenting time plans. Her background in child development and family systems, training in mediation, and experience in evaluating children and adults allow her to offer additional services, including therapeutic reunification of disenfranchised parent/child dyads and parenting coordination for child-focused resolution of parenting plan disagreements.

Register or CALL 201-972-6475 to place your name on the RSVP list

Are you considering next steps in your personal life? At some point you may want to start dating again.  Arlene Vasquez, CMM of AVconnexions is a Certified Matchmaker and Dating Coach. She is Founder of AVConnexions, NJ's Premier Matchmaking Service. She will help you with 5 need-to-know tips about online dating. Arlene says: "Getting back out there can be daunting, but these tips will help you navigate your way to finding love again."

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Snarky Public Attitude During Divorce Costs One Ex Plenty!

New York case may give other spouses pause before they go public with ex bashing

The wife was all set to take home a good payday.  Half of her husbands assets totaling $2.5 million dollars.  She should have used a few hundred dollars for anger management classes or a few dollars for chill pills.  It seems that she was still holding a grudge against her lawyer husband for buying his girlfriend a really big rock.  She didn't just complain to her BFF, she told the press. 

The judge in the case found that Janice Schacter had sullied the reputation of her husband, Ira:

“Her repeated attacks against him have played a part in diminishing his income,” Judge Drager found.

The bad press resulted in Ira becoming “an involuntary contestant for the negative award for Lawyer of the Month” on the website Above the Law, Drager noted.

The New York Post reported that the judge also noted:

“This acrimonious divorce action presented one of the most contentious litigations this court has ever presided over,” Justice Drager ruled, noting that each side shouted during proceedings and even “ran out of the courtroom in the middle” of hearings.

For more about this case, you can turn to the full article at the Post.

At Aretsky and Aretsky, Attorneys at Law in Bergen County, NJ, we work hard to keep every divorce case as free from acrimony as possible. When kids are involved, even adult children, the relationship with your ex is very likely to continue if both of you intend to continue relationships with the kids and grandkids.  It is very hard to unsay the harsh things you might use in attempting to skewer your ex in the lawsuit or among friends or family. 

Call today and we can discuss the basics of your case prior to your making any decisions.  Eric Aretsky is available 24/7 to take your call on his cellphone at 201-580-3411

Aretsky & Aretsky Attorneys at Law
3 University Plaza Dr.
Hackensack, NJ 07601

Thursday, April 3, 2014

Seniors and Boomers Divorce Rate Increasing

What are the factors behind Granny and Poppy splitting up?

In a somewhat surprising development, divorce rates are increasing for folks over 65. While there has been a very large increase in the 50+ crowd driven by the boomers, this increase among their parents comes as a surprise to many.  A quick look into the details reveals some of the major reasons for the trend.  According to an article in the Los Angeles Times by sociology professor Susan L. Brown:

The rise in "gray divorce" is a product of dramatic changes in the meaning of marriage in America over the last half-century. Today, we live in an era of individualized marriage, in which those who wed have high expectations for marital success. Americans expect marriage to provide them not simply with stability and security but also with self-fulfillment and personal satisfaction. Roles are flexible; the traditional breadwinner-homemaker model is no longer the status quo. Good spouses engage in open communication and are best friends. This is a high bar for many to achieve, let alone maintain over decades while juggling work and child-rearing.

If a marriage is not achieving these goals, then divorce is an acceptable solution, according to most Americans. As Ann Landers famously advised those considering divorce, simply answer the question, "Are you better off with or without your spouse?"

For many boomers, the question is a familiar one because they have already gotten divorced, picked up the pieces and moved on. Boomers are more likely than previous generations to have experienced divorce and remarriage. And those remarriages, it turns out, are at greater risk of ending in divorce. In part, that's because these marriages tend to be more fragile due to the relationship challenges associated with forming a stepfamily. Remarriages are also less stable because they involve individuals who have demonstrated their willingness to get divorced in the event of an unsatisfactory marriage. A study I conducted with I-Fen Lin found that the divorce rate among married couples ages 50 and older was 2 1/2 times higher for those in remarriages than in first marriages.

The more complex marital biographies of many boomers thus have enduring consequences, potentially placing them at heightened risk of a later-life divorce. Another factor in the growing rate of late-life divorces includes an increased tendency of couples to reassess their unions at life turning points, such as an empty nest or retirement. Lengthening life expectancies can play a role too. Men and women who are 65 can expect to live 20 more years, a long time to spend with someone you may not like so much anymore.

The consequences of these later-in-life divorces can be emotionally and financially devastating.  Men, in particular, have a very hard time dealing with single life, and almost universally have more health problems than their married counterparts. 

Women, on the other hand, are more likely to feel the financial effects. It is substantially more expensive for two to live separately than together, and the generally lower income for those over 65 leaves little room for two persons to maintain anything like their previous standard of living.

If you are considering a divorce or if your spouse has already started the process, you need a legal team that will be caring and considerate about your circumstances.  That will be exactly what you can expect when you call and speak with Eric or Dolores Aretsky.  Call now at 201-580-3411

Aretsky & Aretsky Attorneys at Law
3 University Plaza Dr.
Hackensack, NJ 07601

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Top Six Reasons For Car Accidents - Attorney

Avoid a Car Accident by Following These Tips puts out hundreds of helpful tip sheets that unsurprisingly always offer 6 bits of advice or tips or secrets.  Here is a short version of one they did on car accidents.  For the rest of the story, see their post here.

The 6 Most Common Causes of Automobile Crashes

Distracted drivers cause between 25-50 percent of all U.S. motor vehicle accidents.
1. Distracted Drivers
Mark Edwards, Director of Traffic Safety at the American Automobile Association stated, "The research tells us that somewhere between 25-50 percent of all motor vehicle crashes in this country really have driver distraction as their root cause."
The distractions are many, but according to a study conducted by the Virginia Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV) and Virginia Commonwealth University (VCU), texting -- rubbernecking -- or slowing down to gawk at another accident -- caused the most accidents, accounting for 16 percent of all distraction-related crashes.

After rubbernecking, other common driver distractions included:
  • Driver fatigue (12 percent, see below)
  • Looking at scenery (10 percent)
  • Other passengers or children (9 percent)
  • Adjusting the radio, cassette or CD player (7 percent)
  • Reading the newspaper, books, maps or other documents (less than 2 percent)
Another increasingly serious cause of driver distraction is cell phone use, as more than 85 percent of the estimated 100 million cell-phone users talk on their phone regularly while driving, according to a Prevention magazine survey. At least one study has found that driving and talking on a cell phone at the same time quadruples the risk of crashing, which is why many cities have recently begun banning their use while driving unless a hands-free device is used.

2. Driver Fatigue
Drowsy drivers account for about 100,000 accidents every year in the United States, according to the U.S. National Traffic Safety Administration. The risk is greatest from 11 p.m. to 8 a.m., the time when most people are used to sleeping, however some people also become drowsy from noon to 2 p.m.
Symptoms of driver fatigue include heavy eyelids, frequent yawning, a drifting vehicle that wanders over road lines, varying vehicle speed for no reason, misjudging traffic situations, seeing things "jump out" in the road, feeling fidgety or irritable and daydreaming.

3. Drunk Driving
In 2004, an estimated 16,654 people were killed in alcohol-related crashes, according to NHTSA. This is an average of one death almost every half-hour. Drunk drivers were responsible for 30 percent of all fatal crashes during the week in 2003, but this percentage rose significantly over the weekends, during which 53 percent of fatal crashes were alcohol-related.

4. Speeding
Speeding is a multi-tiered threat because not only does it reduce the amount of time necessary to avoid a crash, it also increases the risk of crashing and makes the crash more severe if it does occur. In fact, according to the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety (IIHS), when speed increases from 40 mph to 60 mph, the energy released in a crash more than doubles. Simply slowing down and obeying posted speed limits can go a long way toward making the roads safer.

5. Aggressive Driving
Exactly what is an aggressive driver? According to the New York State Police, it's anyone who:
"Operates a motor vehicle in a selfish, bold or pushy manner, without regard for the rights or safety of the other users of the streets and highways." This includes behaviors such as:
  • Aggressive tailgating
  • Flashing lights at other drivers because you're irritated at them
  • Aggressive or rude gestures
  • Deliberately preventing another driver from moving their vehicle
  • Verbal abuse
  • Physical assaults
  • Disregarding traffic signals
  • Changing lanes frequently or in an unsafe manner
  • Failure to yield the right of way
6. Weather.
Inclement weather, including heavy rain, hail, snowstorms, ice, high winds and fog can make driving more difficult. You'll need more time to stop and may have trouble seeing the road clearly, so when the weather gets bad be sure to leave extra room between the car in front of you and slow down. If necessary, pull off the road to a rest stop (or to the side of the road, well out of the traffic lanes) until conditions improve.

Even while you try to do a better job of driving and avoiding accidents, there are those on the road who are still going to rubber neck, text while driving, or drink and drive.  The good news is that your better driving skills and techniques will lower your likelihood of being involved in a car accident.  The bad news is that there is still a chance that you will or that one of your family members might.

If you are in an auto accident and sustain an injury, here is tip #7.

NEVER CALL THE INSURANCE COMPANY CLAIMS ADJUSTER until you speak with an experienced car accident attorney.  Eric Aretsky will be happy to receive your call 24/7 on his personal phone.  There is not cost or obligation to talk with Eric about your situation.  Then there is no out of pocket cost to you to pursue a maximum settlement with the insurance company through Eric and his law firm.  You only pay when you get paid by the insurance company.  You don't have to deal with them at all.  Eric will do all the work.  Call now  201-580-3411

Aretsky & Aretsky Attorneys at Law
3 University Plaza Dr.
Hackensack, NJ 07601